| You've been together several months, but something | | | | reactions from the infidelity onto you simply because |
| doesn't feel quite right with your partner. You start | | | | you see each other more often. In other words, you |
| wondering if he or she might be having an affair. Is it | | | | may be the recipient of a mood that is not due to any |
| jealousy, your imagination or just apathy that is the | | | | of your actions at all. |
| result of long-term complacency with each other? It | | | | If your mate becomes incommunicative and refuses to |
| can be hard to tell sometimes, but when in doubt go | | | | interact with you, this can also be a sign of cheating. |
| with your gut and look for the following behaviors that | | | | He or she might seem cold or inconsiderate of your |
| might mean your mate is having an affair. | | | | feelings and be less intimate with you in general. This |
| Oddly, your partner might be having an affair if he or | | | | kind of psychological distancing includes such behaviors |
| she is acting MORE attentive than usual to you. If you | | | | such as locking the bathroom door when he or she |
| are suddenly showered with gifts and compliments in | | | | has always left it open. They may also insist that they |
| what almost seems like an inappropriate manner, then | | | | pick up their own dry cleaning or keep locked drawers. |
| he or she might be trying to make up for guilty feelings. | | | | They may also insist on doing their own laundry. If he |
| Look for a sudden change in your partner's routine. Is | | | | or she seems extra finicky about personal boundaries |
| he or she staying out a lot longer than usual, not | | | | or seems to be trying to set new rules about privacy, |
| showing up for dinner or unaccountable at times for his | | | | this is also a warning sign. |
| or her whereabouts? If your partner suddenly alters his | | | | Relationship experts say that if your partner's taste in |
| or her daily habits that too can be a sign of cheating. | | | | clothing, movies or music suddenly changes, than they |
| If your partner is frequently picking fights with you, that | | | | may be trying please their new lover. |
| might also mean big trouble. The emotional logic behind | | | | Another sign of cheating is if your partner seems to |
| this is that picking a fight gives him or her to an excuse | | | | be a bit over the top when cutting up or criticizing a |
| to fly out of the house and possibly into the arms of | | | | person that both of you know quite well. This is a |
| the third party. That way the cheating partner can | | | | common tactic used to conceal an affair that leads |
| deny guilty feelings and blame you instead. If you are | | | | you believe that nothing would ever be possible |
| not to blame, a cheater will create a reason to justify | | | | between the two of them. |
| what he or she is doing to you. | | | | Perhaps the biggest indication that you might be |
| Your mate might also become overly critical of you. | | | | dealing with a cheater is if they stop acting as if they |
| This is part of an agenda that once again, gives them | | | | are a part of your life. They may lose complete |
| an excuse to leave or justify the affair. The guilty | | | | interest in family, friends or following through on mutual |
| partner might also be overly sensitive to criticism from | | | | financial goals or plans for the future. Your mate also |
| you as there may be a ring of truth that triggers guilty | | | | might be reluctant to go out of town for any reason, |
| feelings that they would rather not face. | | | | as that might cause a crisis in his or her other |
| If every time you have fight your partner threatens | | | | relationship. |
| you with ending the relationship, you might also have a | | | | If you do discover that your mate is cheating, you are |
| cheater on your hands. Your lover feels safe with | | | | likely to go through the five stages of grief - shock |
| these ultimatums because they have another person | | | | denial, anger, sadness and acceptance. There is no |
| as "back-up" should the two of you decide to split up. | | | | underestimating the enormous impact of these |
| Another sign of cheating is a consistent negative | | | | reactions, even if you had a gut feeling that you knew |
| attitude towards the relationship and comments that | | | | about the affair all along. |
| make you feel as if you have an expiry date inked on | | | | Your relationship will also probably go through three |
| your forehead. This might include saying such things as | | | | phases. The first is the reaction to the affair, the |
| "I would like to travel next year." (with no mention of a | | | | second is the decision as to what to do about it and |
| "we") or "You know I will always love you, even if this | | | | the last is a recuperation phase (whether or not you |
| ever ended." | | | | decide to stick it out with your partner in the end.) If |
| If your lover becomes withdrawn and depressed, it | | | | your partner is willing to be part of the decision and |
| could be that he or she is brooding about what they | | | | recuperation phases, it is highly recommended that you |
| have done and can't handle the guilt. Sudden explosive | | | | seek marriage or relationship counseling to deal with |
| displays of affection or anger can also be a bad sign, | | | | the fall-out from the infidelity. |
| as the partner might be transferring emotional | | | | |