The Dark World of Cyberbullying

Bullyingit is up to you to make sure you are looking for any
When the term bullying comes up, taunting and teasingvisible signs that your child may tip you off to. Some of
at the schoolyard probably comes to mind. Worryingthe major indications include:o Your child spends long
about your child's safety while they are away fromhours on the computero Tries to hide or shelter you
the home is enough for a parent to think about. Butfrom their online activityo Mood swingso Your child
with technology moving at lightning speed, there is acomplains of illness irregularly and tries to avoid school
new threat in town. A threat that allows bullying toand social eventso Lowered self-esteemo Loss of
walk right into your living room, even when you thinkpersonal items, broken personal itemso Taking out
your child is safe and sound ten feet away from you.aggression at homeo Trouble sleeping
Enter the world of cyberbullying.Spread the word
Cyberbullying is a serious issue that affects manyTalk to teachers and other parents about bullying.
school children and peaks between the ages of 11-13.Consider starting or joining a committee on
As with regular bullies, cyber bullies typically displacebully-prevention. The more the word gets out the
their own anger and frustrations on targets that theybetter chances or people starting to recognize it as a
find to be weaker and more vulnerable than themself.serious problem.
A bully will traditionally pick on someone that appearsWarn kids about personal privacy
different from themself and has shown the inability toMake sure your kids are not revealing personal
defend themselves.information while online. Photos, addresses, cell phone
However, cyberbullying can be even more ruthless, asnumbers can all be fuel for a bully's rampage. It is best
bullies have the capability to post pictures and text onfor your child to have as little information available to
the internet where the entire world can see it. Oftenthe public as possible.
these pictures and text can be edited with differentCall services providers
programs to create images and phrases that can beInternet service providers have restrictions against this
seriously damaging to a child. Such as kids' faceskind of inappropriate activity, so if your child is
copied and pasted onto pornographic images, hurtfulexperiencing taunts or threats, they should be reported
captions on pictures, or even voting and rating of kidsimmediately. However, do not delete any abusive
as to who is the fattest, sluttiest, ugliest, etc. Theseimages or messages that have been directed towards
cruel tactics can be extremely psychologicallyyour child. This can end up being your evidence against
damaging to a child.the bully if pursuing further action.
Cyberbullying is particularly scary because the bully hasCall a police officer
the ability to remain invisible. Kids can be targeted fromIf bullying becomes constant and abusive it is important
remote locations with vicious and cruel acts, while theto contact authorities. The police will be helpful and can
bully holds little or no accountability because he or sheconduct Internet surveillance to catch the bully if you
can remain anonymous.feel that your child is in any kind of danger.
The worst part about cyberbullying is that a child willAs a good parent it is important to make sure that you
often not report this type of abuse to a parentare raising your kid with the common sense to be able
because he or she is embarrassed, scared, or fearsto come forward and report incidences like bullying. It is
that it will make the problem worse.the bully that has the real problem, and it is necessary
There have been very limited studies done on this newfor your kid to know that they need to stick together
phenomenon, which makes the problem hard to fullywith friends, teachers and parents, and come forward
understand and prevent. Dr. Qing Li, a professor ofwhen they are experiencing abuse on the internet.
educational technology at the University of Calgary,Even if your kid is not being bullied but knows
says that around one in every six kid's experiencessomeone who is, hopefully you have taught them to
cyber-bullying on a regular basis, and that the problemhave the courage to tell someone about it. Tell your
is increasing at a rapid pace.kids that bystanders are part of the problem, and
What can you do as a parent?reporting inappropriate online behaviour to an adult is a
Look for signs of cyber-bullying.step in the right direction of eradicating the problem.
A child will often be reluctant to report being bullied, so